Showing posts with label fitness; nutrition; workout; gratitude; health; wellness; stay at home mom; balance; lifestyle; coaching. Show all posts
Showing posts with label fitness; nutrition; workout; gratitude; health; wellness; stay at home mom; balance; lifestyle; coaching. Show all posts

Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Happy Hump Day! Wednesday, April 20, 2011


People, me include, often have trouble setting goals. We too often fear setting goals that are too far removed from our current state that the possibility of "failure" deters us from even trying! I recently had a bootcamper tell me that she doesn't set goals because that way she can't fail. I was really put back by this statement but the truth is when I thought about it, we all do that don't we? I know I sure do!
Just something to think about....

Gratitude
I am very grateful for my health. Getting sick over the weekend and now battling a cold really makes you appreciate being strong and healthy and the fact that I have the ability to fight it and ultimately get srtonger!


Nutrition
So today is the third day of my sugar free journey. I think that getting sick over the weekend with that stomach bug (or whatever it was) and now being smothered with a head and chest cold had really been a gift to me in terms of getting my nutrition back on track too. My appetite has not been the best so I am being very consious of listening to my body and truly eating when I am hungry and feeding my body what it needs.
I feel much better though since going off the sugar already. Maybe a coincidence, but I doubt it. I usually respond well pretty early on when I start cutting the crap out. I am sure it will be reflected on the scale too eventually but that isn't a big concern so I haven't checked and don't really plan to. I just want to be strong and fit and healthy (but a little leaner is an added bonus for sure!)

Yesterday was a good day.
Golden pancakes
salad with chicken
lean burger with lettuce, tomato, light mozza on whole wheat bread
yogurt and strawberries (the only added sugar of the day)
1/2 c. of skim milk.

Tomorrow is Kenny's birthday, still undecided if I will have any of that cake or not....time will tell I guess, lol.

Workout
Yesterday I took it easy. I did a little with my class last night but not enough to call it a workout.
Today is back at my weights and hopefully maybe a hill walk on the treadmill after if the body is up to it. Paying attention and being in tune with my body is key!

Monday, April 18, 2011

Monday April 18, 2011 - The Journey to Being Sugar Free Begins



Courage...feel the fear and do it anyway right? Well today I begin my journey to once and for all end my addiction to sugar. I have done it in the past, all but eliminate it from my diet, but not permanantly. It finds its way back in there...sneaky little bugger! The white poison is everywhere!
I find myself justifying my actions with "you only live once", "you can't avoid it", "you'll be miserable", "what will you eat" etc, etc, etc, but the truth is I KNOW that I feel so much better without it! I have more energy, I sleep better, I eat better all around, and I even enjoy my food more. When your food is not laced with artificial flavors, colours and other chemicals you can actually taste the food itself and what a joy food truly can be!
'The stuff that we eat, isn't really food! So I am facing this nemesis of mine one day at a time, one meal at a time, one snack at a time! I know that I will not do it perfectly but if each day can be better than the last then I will be successful.

Nutrition 
This weekend was a forced relaxtion for me. My tummy prepared me for my sugar detox whether I wanted it to or not. At one point I though that it was the stomach flu but now I wonder if it was the beautiful yet oily salmon that I ate on friday for supper. I LOVE salmon, it is my far my favorite fish but it didn't sit well. The fact that I then went to a birthday party and ate a cookie and a small chicken finger didn't help matters. By the time 3:30 am came around I was in racks of pain and by 7am was prepared to go to the hospital.  But the body is brilliant and it took care of eliminating the problem. Once I got it out of my system I was feeling much better, all be it very tired from  not having much else to eat. Yesterday was an easy day as well, toast, fruit and then by supper we had our usual sunday pizza, which sat a little heavy but didn't bother me.

So that brings us to today....so far food has been simple (but than again it is only 9:30). Banana at 6am then my mornings oats with some apple, dried fruit, almonds and a little stevia. Will be keeping things pretty plain again today, maybe some chicken and rice but no added sugars! Beans, rice, chicken, veggies and fruit for the day and lots and lots of water!

Workout
Missesd my saturday workout and still not 100% sure on today since my energy is still a little low but by this afternoon I am sure that I will be back on track. Today is scheduled to be a lifting day and I am back in my groove so missing today won't be well received.....will update tomorrow on how it went! :)

Wednesday, April 13, 2011

What's Your Reason?

What is your goal?
What do you want?
What drives you?
What motivates you?
What is your reason?

So often people begin this type of journey because of a weight issue. It is a motivating factor for most people. But truth be known, wanting to be a certain size or number on the scale will NOT get you out of bed at 5:30am or get you off of Facebook to go for a walk. Don't get me wrong, it works in the beginning. It gets you started and it is great when it is all fresh and exciting and fun. But after about 3 weeks the novelty quickly wears off and the warm bed and cuddly spouse or the vacation pics from your old high school frenemies are far more appealing.

I have blogged about this before but it bears repeating. Goalsetting is the KEY to success. How can you get somewhere when you have no idea of your destination or when you need to get there? It sounds simple but it is true and it is something that I too continue to struggle with.

We do not want to get too excited and set ourselves up for failure by setting lofty goals that are unrealistic for us. But we can't be too soft and not challenge ourselves either! There is a fine line. It is best to set a bigger, long term goal then you will make the smaller goals along the way seem so much more attainable but they will keep you on track for your ultimate prize!

But truly it comes down to deciding exactly what you want and why. Like I said, a certain weight or size or even a trip or a wedding won't be enough to drive you to push yourself past your comfort zone.

Personally this all came to me again as I carried 5 jugs of water downstairs to be put away. It just hit me that it is pretty cool that I can grab those 19L jugs and carry them around without any pain or difficulty or having to depend on anyone else. I am incredibly grateful for that, but I am also aware that I work hard to maintain the healthy, strong body that I was blessed with. I can pick up my 30+ and 40+ lbs kids mid-tantrum and carry them away. I can get up on my own two feet early in the morning to go for a walk/run. I have the ability and I choose to view it as both an obligation and a pleasure to nurture and grow in both my body and my spirit.

Knowing that I can feel good in my clothes is a nice added bonus but it is not what drives me. For me it is about being healthy, active, fit, being a role model for my children, taking care of my husband's wife and my children's mother and honoring God by honoring my body, mind and soul.

Now I ask....what drives you?

Wonderful Wednesday, April 13th


My 6 year old daughter asked me if I pray like she does when I go to bed? Of course I told her I do but I also shared with her the other times throughout the day when I pray. And "when I think of it" is my best answer. Sometimes it is in the shower (most times), sometimes when doing dishes, cooking supper or folding laundry. But definitey the most common is when I look at my children. When they play, when they sleep, when they eat and yes, even when they are arguing or fighting. Some prayers are of gratitude, many are for peace and patience and many are offered up in pure desparation and fear!
Hey, I am a parent. The most difficult and humbling job there is!

Gratitude
Oh the days are getting longer! Spring is here! When I woke this morning at 5:45 the sky was so much brighter than it has been in the mornings. The evenings are noticably longer as well.


Nutrition
banana
muffin cup quiche, grapefruit, small homemade granola bar
shake with milk
sandwich instead of the leftover orginally planned - just felt like it
yogurt, nuts
hockey day tacos (Colton's fave!!!)

Workout
split squat ~ deadlift
reverse lunge ~ elevated pushup
bicycle ~ ball jackknife

Tuesday, April 12, 2011

Terrific Tuesday, April 12


It isn't about having a "perfect" body, it's about having and being YOUR best!
Stop comparing yourself to others and coveting what other people have and you will realize that you are enough just as you are, as long as you learn to love and recognize the potential that it already within you.
I have been given a healthy and able body, it is MY choice how I use it (or abuse it). Do you show gratitude for the body that you have been given?

Gratitude
Well we already know that I am so grateful for my physical health but today, I am also grateful for my mental health. I blogged a while back about seasonal affective disorder and how I am a sufferer. I have made it to the end of another winter which even greater success than in past years; thanks to my nutrition, my happy lite and my husband's and children's love for the outdoors!
 Being open and honest about SAD and talking about the "darkness" and the "energy zappers" really made me feel good both here and amongst friends. Coming from a family that struggles with mental health issues that spans from depression and anxiety to bipolar disorder to schizophrenia as well a variety of addictions (the joys of coming from HUGE families on both sides), mental health and wellness is of great value to me.

Nutrition
French toast (multigrain bread and 2 eggs), SF syrup, skim milk
yogurt, apple, pecans
chicken, rice, veggies (leftover)
protein shake, rice cakes
chili pork, brown rice and black beans
muffin pan quiche, banana

Workout
Today is an "off" day from weights but I am going to have some fun with my punching bag. A 20-30 minute workout with my bag and bootcamp tonight with my peeps!
Just get moving! A little something every day!

Monday, April 11, 2011

Happy Monday, April 11th, 2011


HAPPY MONDAY!

I just love Mondays - a little odd I know to some of you, but seriously, I do. It is like a fresh start every week.

Gratitude
A good night's sleep. I really woke to my 5:45am alarm refreshed this morning, which I have not been able to say all week. I did expect a not so great sleep since DD has been plagued with a cough the past few days but she slept well and so did I. Thank the Lord!

Nutrition
muffin cup quiche, fruit crepe (generous gift of one of my morning bootcampers....mmmm)
yogurt, nuts
chicken and bean wrap
banana, PB
baked chicken, brown rice, veggies
shake

Workout
Short 20 min run before breakfast, after my ladies left. It was great to get outside and get the early morning air!

Weights a little later in the morning, after breakfast has settled.

DB press ~ BB row
rev. grip pulldown ~ bent over reverse DB fly
close grip DB press ~ incline DB curl ~ face pulls


Saturday, April 9, 2011

Weekend checkin


Knowing and not doing is the same as not knowing! I have been guilty of knowing but not doing and sometimes admittedly I still am, but I strive each and every day to practice what I preach. Weekends are always a little more difficult for me as for most people. The schedule generally isn't the same and we tend to be more lax in terms of our workouts as well as our nutrition. So this week, I will loosely plan as I do during the week and I will enjoy my weekly treat meal (typically on Saturday night with a movie) but will fill out the rest of my meals with lots of fruits and vegetables and healthy fats!

Gratitude
Such an incredible feeling to see the sheer joy on my daughter's face when she got her new bike. Pure excitement, love and appreciation.

Some Planned Meals and Snacks.....
ww toast, muffin cup quiche, grapefruit
shake
yogurt and nuts
apple and light mozza
banana, PB
tuna melt
grilled chicken salad

Workouts
Today is a weight workout:
snatch grip deadlift supersetted with side planks
good morning supersetted with forward lunge
single leg stability ball hamstring curl supersetted with single leg hip extension

If the wind stays down a trip to the beach to run some stairs might is in the plans as well!

Tomorrow (Sunday) is an off day but probably an easy walk or some foam rolling.

Friday, April 8, 2011

Friday, April 8th, 2011


I love this passage from scripture! It is one of my favourites and although I do not profess to know many by heart that is certainly one that has had a profound affect on the way that I view my life. As a stay at home mom it is so easy to fall into the rut and routine and lose sight of why you do what you do. It is easy to forget and lose focus on the INTENTION behind the seemingly insignificant duties that we go through each and every day. But ultimately if you do what you do out of love for God and in appreciation for the blessings that you have been given then all is right in your world. Take the focus off of yourself and go about your daily activities, duties and obligations with love, gratitude and a desire to please God and spread His love to others and to make others feel loved and appreciated - if you do that, then at the end of the day you can call it a success in my humble opinion.

For me this translates into my family, and home as well as my work. In terms of my business it is my desire to use my health, fitness and wellness to so appreciation and gratitude for the beautiful, able body that I was blessed with. Being open about my own issues with scheduling, family, nutrition, workouts etc is my attempt to hopefully help you! And I can only pray that my intentions are recognized for what they are - although I am sure people will always question.

Gratitude
Today I am so grateful to wake up to another glorious sunshiney morning! (I know, it isn't a real word). Isn't it just incredible how seeing that sun beaming in  through the window creates a warmth that goes beyond words! And yes some people might scoff and say "all it does is highlight all of the dust on your furniture" but I choose to feel the warmth and enjoy the dusting that is to come :)

Nutrition
Banana (6am)
Protein (golden) pancakes (8am)
yogurt, pecans
santa fe chicken salad
broccoli quiche, grapefruit
supper is unplanned and undecided at this point.....thinking baked cod though.....

Workout (total 35 mins)
Underhand seated cable row supersetted with Incline DB press
DB row supersetted with Standing DB shoulder press

Followed with a Kettlebell Metabolic Workout (15 mins)
30:15
KB Deadlifts
KB high pulls
KB Romanian Deadlifts
KB swings

Thursday, April 7, 2011

To compete or not to compete....that is the question...


I learned a few years back that I really am a very goal driven person. I didn't really know that about myself to be honest, but the past few years it has become painfully evident.

When my son was 6 months old I started to have recurring thoughts of an old promise that I had made myself a few years prior. A friend of mine competed in bodybuilding and although I admired her tremendously for her crazy regime I thought that it was too restrictive and unhealthy for me. The new class of "figure" was evolving and I stated that if "figure" ever came to Newfoundland that I would like to do it. In my mind it wasn't nearly as dangerous as bodybuilding.

Fast Forward about 4 years from then and low and behold here I am with a toddler, a new born and a body that I did not recognize. So I declared that I was going to compete in this still fairly new category of figure at one of the local provincial shows in November, just 2 months after my son would turn a year old.

A friend who had competed before (not the same one as previously mentioned) helped me prepare for this show and I slowly dieted down and trained for 6 months. Looking back I am still not sure how I did it with everything else going on but I am so proud that I did. I knew when I started that I would not be "competitive" with the other ladies but in the end, for me, it was about setting out to accomplish something that I said I was going to do. And I did. I walked on stage that show and placed 4th (out of 4) in the tall category. Not a great showing but I really didn't care! I was thrilled!

Then came the months of rebound. I was gaining and gaining back all of my weight even though I was eating good food. Truth be known I had done some serious damage to my metabolism by training and dieting on too much cardio and too few carbs. So as the weight crept back up I really struggled mentally with finding balance in my diet and workouts. (You might recall me telling you about the day that I wouldn't eat an apple because it had too many carbs? Well that was the result of this rebound).

Since that time and through all of that struggle a part of me has remained determined to prove that I can still get the physique that I know I am capable of by eating a healthy, balanced, real food diet and exercising a reasonable amount of time. I had not been able to find that up until now but I am finally at the point that I can see the changes and in the end it was the result of changing my mindset! Surprise, surprise!

So every so often the thoughts of competing re-emerge, and lately the sparkly bikinis have been calling my name again. This time the new category of "figure model" is even more appealing than any other has been in the past. It is the look of fit and lean but not overly muscular, but with a definite notable level of muscle but still very feminine - think "magazine cover" look.

So I still sit on the fence with a variety of back and forth thoughts on the competition thing...

For the past year I have debated over one main issue; that being my business. My business it to promote healthy balance in all aspects of life. Some argue that the fitness and competition lifestyle is a selfish one and not at all balanced or healthy. And to some point I have agreed and to be honest that is what has kept me away up until now. But the other side of that equation is that I also promote personal growth and goal setting so for me to set and achieve the goal of competing could potentially be a great source of inspiration for my friends, family and clients.

I think I have had a great fear of becoming obsessed with thoughts of shows and diets and workouts and bikinis....to the point that the fear has stopped me. I have also been holding myself back for fear of people misinterpreting my intentions for walking on stage. You see, I am a Christian and some see the sport as being very shallow and going against all that my faith teaches. (That is another blog right there*). It is something that I have had issues with.

But ultimately I think for me it is about setting a goal, following through, being transparent and accountable and inspiring others ~ the actual walking on stage is just the icing on the cake (pardon the pun). I have been so blessed to have a healthy, able body and I see it as my God given responsibility to treat it with the utmost respect as well as to use my life to lift up and inspire others.

So again, I still have no answer to the question that I get asked so frequently as to whether I will walk the stage again or not. I have a long way to go to get to that level in terms of my physique but I do have a plan. There are just over 12 weeks left until summer holidays from school and then camping begins. I have a wedding the first weekend of September so 2 goal dates in mind - and before pictures are taken. So what happens after that is any body's guess.....

Daily checkin - April 7th, 2011



Thought for today
I LOVE this one! It really resounded with me because over the past few years I have really worked to create the life that I desire. Do not be a victim of your circumstances, only YOU have the power to change YOUR life!

Gratitude
Today I am especially grateful for my two healthy children. They sometimes annoy the poop out of me - like when they come into bed at 6:40 am ready to rip and roar for the day - but in the end, they are healthy and have the ability to drive me nuts, for that I can not even express how grateful that I am!


Nutrition (todays planned and not so planned meals...)
Golden Pancakes (recipe from Eating for Life by Bill Phillips)
yogurt and crushed pecans
tuna quesadilla and angel food cake with some cool whip (that was the unplanned part)
apple, cheese
grapefuit, muffin cup quiche
chicken breast, salad, baked potato

Workout
Today was supposed to be a day off but it was so beautiful to see the sunshine that I decided to go for a short intervals workout and soak up some vitamin D. It was great to take advantage of hubby working later today!

5 minute warm up
30 : 90 intervals X 6 rounds
5 minute cool down

It felt so awesome to get outside but in all honesty I am just not a runner. I did start to enjoy it a bit there a couple of years back but a hip problem resulted in me going back to walking. Doing the body weight cardio intervals is definitely my preferred method of metabolic training these days and of course my punching bag - that beats all other (pardon the pun).

So those are my thoughts and plans for today. I will be back tomorrow with an  update and hopefully daily, at least until camping starts then I can't make any promises!

Wishing you balanced living!
Lesley

More frequent Blogging....my committment to you!

So life has been crazy busy as always with two young children and a growing business, not to mention husband, house, church and other volunteer commitment....but not busy in a bad way (most days anyway). But seeing as how I am focusing more on my lifestyle coaching business and boot camp these days I think that it is high time that I come clean about my own everyday life and how I find balance ~ some days are more successful than others but I strive to do just a little better every day than the day before and that is all we can ask for. Striving for excellence is not about being perfect - we all know that there is not such thing - to me excellence is being a little better than yesterday and if I do that then I call it a successful day.

So today I am committing to blogging to share my own struggles as well as my own nutrition and workouts and stress management tips; because the truth be told, I am my business. I am the person who works with you to help you find strategies to manage your own health, fitness and wellness. I hope that my transparency will leave you feeling empowered and encouraged that you are not alone in your challenges.

Health and happiness!
Lesley

Tuesday, February 8, 2011

Disordered Eating in "Normal" People (yes, I consider myself normal)


This is something that I shared with a friend recently and she suggested that it would be great to share here as well....

I had always had a good relationship with food and a fascination with nutrition. I ate well, I was a grazer and of I wanted a treat I had it, with no guilt. I exercised for the health benefits although I never LOVED working out, I did always appreciate how it made me feel and I believed that it would set me up for a healthy future.

I even watched a good friend and co-worker compete in a bodybuilding show and at the time secretly was VERY worried for her because i thought it was terribly unhealthy - but I also said at that time how much I admired her and if they ever brought figure to my province I would love to do it. In my mind it wasn't as unhealthy as Bodybuilding since the levels of body fat weren't as low etc. This may have been my first step in flawed thinking now that I look back.

Fast forward to post natal period of child #2...I was at my heaviest. I had lost almost all of my pregnancy weight but I was miserable. I was insecure about my body and eating anything and everything (in addition to my healthy foods) to cope with the colic and the toddler (older sister). Two colickly kids born 22 months apart took its toll on me mentally, no doubt.

I decided to take control of something, anything in my life and get in the best shape I had ever been in - vehicle of choice being a figure competition 7 months later (my son would be 14 months old at the time of the show).

I had a friend "train" me - knowing now it was too much cardio and too few carbs. I walked on stage at 103 lbs! But I was so proud that I had accomplished my goal. And to this day that accomplishment has continued to hold a lot of weight in my psyche knowing that I can do anything that I set my mind to. And although I do still feel that was a positive effect of it all, the negative has lead to an obsession with food, eating, dieting (although I never called it that) and self esteem issues.

I rebounded badly. I was eating 6 times a day, moderate portions of healthy foods and still gained weight. I couldn't understand it! I didn't have a post show plan and the weight came on quickly. A few months later I was almost back to me starting weight although I felt that I looked better than I had a year before at the same weight. But my issues with food were anything but the way that they had been. The day that I would not eat an apple because it had too many carbs, I knew I had some serious food issues.

I binge on sugar - candy mainly, gummy candy being my main weakness. Ice cream is my vice and over the past few years chocolate. I eat alone, when my husband is at work or gone out. I eat in the kitchen hiding from the kids (often so I don't have to share!) What kind of mother am I?!?!? Then I preach to my clients and family and friends about healthy, clean eating. And they see me eat well so to them it is all above board.

Here's the reality, I am a control freak! I also am a perfectionist. So when I lose control with food and I do these things I label myself as bad and a hypocrit. You can only imagine what that does to my self esteem! I often feel out of control with my aspects of my life so I control my food. It makes me feel good when I eat "good" and set a good example. Food is good and bad so if you eat good food you are good and if you eat bad food you are bad. Yet I would NEVER label or judge anyone else the same way?!?! So why do I do it to myself?

As a child I ate constantly, but I did always love healthy foods. My mother often worried that I had a tape worm, or that I was diabetic. I really did eat and drink all the time! I grew up never worrying about my weight.

The past few days I have been reading a lot about mindful and intuitive eating and it struck a chord with me that helped me uncover a lot of this. I also had braces put on back in november and eating 6 times a day, every couple of hours is simple a pain in the butt!!! I started eating bigger meals, brushing after and then not eating again until I am hungry - low and behold I dropped a few pounds and I feel great! I don't think about what it coming up to eat and I even have started to enjoy my workouts again - after only a few days really!

I still emotionally eat - and I am aware of it. Last night I ate becauser I was reading and bored. But I also came across something that is  great tool that I will use time and time again. When you think you might be hungry and want to eat ask ...



"Am I hungry enough to eat an apple?"Your response will tell you then and there if you want that chocolate bar for physical hunger or emotional feeding. Sometimes you will eat the apple, sometimes you will eat nothing and yes soemtimes you will eat the chocolate bar. The real control over food comes when you can eat that bar and enjoy every bite - then MOVE ON!!!!

I was feeding my emotions and my control issues, of that I have NO doubt.

So today, I eat when my body tells me that I am hungry. I eat healthy foods, as fuel, most of the time, and when I eat things that I once labelled as "bad", I enjoy every single last bite, taking the time to savour it. The funny thing is that when I do that, I eat a lot less of those things!

Funny how brilliant our bodies are?!?!

Being True to Myself

It was recently said to me to be honest with my clients and be true to myself, to be authentic. This has been something that I have always had issue with to be honest. I have always been very open with my feelings and my struggles and it has, in the past, resulted in me feeling very "exposed" and open to ridicule - which sadly, I often experienced. But despite that, it is truly who I am to share my thoughts, feelings, successes and failures so here I am. Open. Honest. Raw.

You see, I truly do care about people. I am a people person, which is what lead me to practice massage therapy as a healing art in the first place. But those who know me also know that I have had issues with being a talker and some clients don't like that. I like to share and chat and get to know my clients, but this often if frowned upon in the massage therapy profession. But the way that I have always felt about it was, if a person if taking off their clothes and spending upwards of an hour of their time with you it is only natural to speak to them on a more personal level. In particular if a client is dealing with pain issues, they already feel isolated and in many cases just want to come and feel free to relax and be something other than their injury.

But getting back to my original point....this person who spoke to me about being authentic was speaking in the context of business. My being true to myself, I truly believe that I will find success in business and in life, as will you.

Establish your priorities; what you value most in your life and then spend time doing THAT! Why waste hours of your day doing something that doesn't serve you at a core level. Now if it is your job, and you are thinking right now "well I hate my job, but I have to work", take a moment to sit back and look at what it is you do and how you can find something in that that speaks to you. You value your family, your children, you want to provide for them. You are good at what you do, you bring happiness to others, you help others in some way...when you begin focusing on the good, the other stuff just melts into the background.

It is all about perspective and what you choose to focus on!

So in my blog posts, although they are about health and wellness, fitness and nutrition, you will also often find posts about me and my life and my own struggles in these very areas. I am not perfect by any means, nor have I got it all figured out. I simply live my life and work each and everyday to help people learn how to help themselves and find balnce in their lives while being happy and healthy in the process.

Health and Happiness,
Lesley-Anne

Sunday, January 16, 2011

I’ve Always Been a Bit Odd...


…then again, who isn’t? As a child I was often bullied and called names for being different; whether it was my appearance or my tendency to befriend “outsiders” I was often picked on and just didn’t fit in. And although I tried to hide behind my odd clothes, short hair and pretend that it didn’t hurt, I believed what they said about me! And it had a profound affect on my self esteem. But do you know something? They lied! And deep down, I think that a part of me always knew it.

I was lucky that I never gave up doing the things that I was good at, even though they teased me and I have to credit my Mom for that! Although when I look back now, I wonder how many things
might I have been good at and I just didn’t try out of fear for giving them more ammunition? I stuck with what I knew, what was safe!

I am learning, as I get older to celebrate my uniqueness. It still doesn’t always make me the most popular person but living my life being true to who I REALLY am has become my mission of sorts. And a part of being true to me is to challenge myself and push myself outside of my comfort zone. Doing things that scare me or that I might fail miserably at, are a part of my life on a regular basis these days. Hey, I figure,if you can’t laugh at yourself, don’t dare laugh at someone else!

Do you live your life playing it safe? Or do your challenge and push yourself? Do you take the risks or do you just hope to muddle through to tomorrow unscathed? Or maybe the real question is....is that really living?

Monday, January 3, 2011

New Year, New Beginning


I am not a fan of New Year's resolutions. I am not saying that I have not made them in the past, but in my old age I have come to figure that if something needs fixing, why wait? Why leave it to a special day on the calendar? What makes January 1st such a special day anyway?

To me New Year's Resolutions hold too much weight - too much pressure. When the motivation and excitement wanes (which it ALWAYS does) then we start to fall back into old patterns and behaviors. Then the cycle begins again and we feel that we have failed in our quest for perfection.

My theory is to make changes as we see the need. If that happens to be on a wednesday afternoon then so be it! This has come to me as I am working on being more present. Not living in the past or waiting for the future....monday morning will come, each and every week, and hopefully I'll be around to see it but I am not living for the waiting if you know what I mean. Why eat crap on thursday because your diet will start on monday - which monday will it be? There happens to be one every seven days or so right?

Personally, I like to take the new year as a time to reflect and set new goals, make plans for the coming year. I am a planner by nature and although I do struggle to stay present in my life, in the here and now, I still do find it very useful to have a map to help guide me in the day to day decisions. But it is just that, a guideline not hard and fast the way it has to be.

Something I read recently that really stuck with me and I have started to incorporate into my thinking and decision making is this: in the overall scheme of your life, even if you live to be 102, what are your five top priorities? What do you want your life to be? Then take those 5 things and make sure that you are doing something every single day that reflects those. Or use them as a guideline to making choices - to ensure that what you choose is in alignment with what you really hold dear. This has been especially helpful to me in learning to say no to things that do not fit into that list.

Whatever your take on the whole tradition, it is never a bad idea to start working on you and making positive changes in your life. My wish for you is that in doing so, you be gentle and kind with yourself. Be true to yourself and to your core values and be always aware that when you empower yourself you are inspiring others in the process!

Health and Happiness,
Lesley

Saturday, October 23, 2010

Seasonal Depression and Mental Wellness

I was quite pleased when I heard a higher up in our local hospital administration tell me that they are shifting the focus of attention from mental illness to mental wellness - isn't it incredible what a difference one word can make. A positive connotation versus a negative one. So with that in mind I want to briefly share some information about something that I too struggle with, seasonal depression. And having mentioned it in a recent post and in passing a few times in the past week or so, I have had a lot of feedback and questions.

I have always been one to really enjoy the winter months. I love to play in the snow, sledding, skidooing, cross country ski and even just walking, but the past few years I have started to notice a cycle of lows that I attribute to a mild seasonal depression. It started to become more of an issue for me a few years back after competing in a figure competition. The winter seemed long and the weight piled back on very quickly. I blamed my fatigue, lack of motivation and craving of high and often refined carbohydrates on the "post competition rebound". Although I am sure it was a contributing factor, I became very aware of my "blues" and being the person that I am, started to pay attention to my body and what it was telling me. It happened again the following year and then again last year.

I have done a lot of reading on and off about a variety of mental health issues and it has always been a topic of interest to me as many of my family members have struggled with a variety of these issues. I remember being VERY concerned during both of my pregnancies about post-partum depression and with the familial history was almost certain that I would be afflicted! Luckily, I was not. Mood swings, hormonal craziness, definately, but I was blessed to not have any more serious issues than that (I can only imagine how it would have been on top of the 2 colicky kids!?!?).

There is a boat-load of great information posted on the Canadian Mental Health Association Website and I would encourage anyone to check it out here... - as well as all the other great information that they provide. But here is my little summary from the site.

The weather, there is no doubt, can have a profound effect on our moods - well we are all aware of that. We feel so much better when we see the sun shine that's for sure! But for many people, the shorter fall and winter days bring about a change in the body resulting in a seasonal winter depression. This depression can vary in severity from a very mild "winter blues" to quite severe where it can interfer with normally daily functioning and worse.

They note on the site there is also a form of summer blues although less common; but I can tell you from experience, living in a place with as much fog as we get here, it might be more common than previosuly thought.


What Causes SAD?
Although there is no defined cause per se, there is strong eveidence of a link between the amount of daylight and the variations that we see throughout the seasons. We evolved to be more active in the daylight hours yet our society today has other plans. We do not get to hibernate through the winters although I am sure many of us would love to! We live in an industrialized society where we work, shop and play at all hours of the days and night - our bodies and it's rhythms are messed up! I can honestly buy into this theory, it makes perfect sense to me. There is also evidence that certain brain chemicals are affected in situations where SAD is present.

What are the symptoms?
Like many other forms of mental health issues, SAD can be difficult to distinguish from other illnesses. When you look at a list of symptoms it is easy to see how there is a lot of crossover between various forms of depression and other medical conditions. The most commonly recognized symtoms include:

- change in appetite, in particular a craving for sweet or starchy foods
- weight gain
- decreased energy
- fatigue
- tendency to oversleep
- difficulty concentrating
- irritability
- avoidance of social situations
- feelings of anxiety and despair

Who has SAD?
Well anyone is at risk but there is a higher rate in women then men and it is also noted that people in northern atmospheres are more susceptible due to the shorter days. Although it can happen in childhood and teenage years it is more common above the age of 20.

Treatment Options
If you have SEVERE depression of suicidal thoughts then you must seek professional help immediately!

But for those with milder cases then there are a variety of options available for treatment...although it is still recommended that you consult with your physician.

- It is suggested that you spend as much time outside, in the daylight, as possible. Sit near windows and add extra lighting when you can.
- Exercise has been proven over and over agian to be a mood lifter and stress reliever, stimulates the release of endorphins (those feel good chemicals in the brain). There is NO debate on this one! And if you can exercise outside...even better!
- A winter vacation to a warm sunny place is always a great choice if that is feasible.
- Photo (light) therapy is probably one of the most common treatments; using a special UV light which you expose yourself to for 20-30 mins a day (we have a happy light and we love it!)
- although very briefly mentioned on the Canadian Mental Health SAD page, I feel that nutrition plays a MAJOR role in this as well. Eating a carefully balanced nutritious diet is essential. Ensuring that the body is receiving all of its vitamins and minerals so it can function at its optimum level is very important. With cases of depression it is often found that the B vitamins are of paricular importance. A diet high in refined and/or starchy carbohydrates and low in fruits and vegetables will often add to the fatigue that accompanies the blues.
- after consulting with your physician, medication might be an option for you as well.

There is my summary of points from the CMHA site as well as a few of my own thoughts thrown in for good measure. There is a lot of information out there about this and it is actually more common than you might realize.

My advice? Find your triggers and create a plan to counteract them! My plan goes something like this:

Nutrition: Eating 5-6 balanced meals, containing 2 servings of complex starchy carbs on training days and one on non-training days. Good fats, lean protein and lots of fruits and veggies. Drink your water!

Workout: training every other day with active rests on the off days - just basically moving everyday of the week combining strength training and cardio.

Sleep: following a consistent sleep pattern throughout the entire week - no sleeping in on weekends - I function much better when I get up early and go to bed early. Set the body up with a consistent routine.

Mindset: don't forget the gratitude list! Writing 5 things a day that I am grateful for keeps things in perspective for me and keeps me thinking in a positive direction. It is so easy to let the negative energy of others and some situations zap us of our own energy and motivation. And also, for me, focusing on helping others reach their goals keeps me focused on my own. Being a good role model is important to me and a value that I hold very dear.

We have no control over the weather or the seasons or our familial predispositions to certain health conditions, but we have control over if we exercise or not or what we put in our mouths to eat. We can control our thoughts and many aspects of our environments. So I will spend this winter focusing on what I CAN control and not wasting time and negative energy on what I can not.

We are lifting the veil on mental health and illness and making it more understood and hopefully less taboo. I suffer from seasonal depression and I do everything in my power to take care of myself until spring comes again.....do you?

Health and Happiness,
Lesley

Friday, October 22, 2010

My common sense real food philosophy

Because I LOVE to eat!!!!

Yes I eat and I eat a lot! I love food, all kinds of food but lucky for me, at a very early age, I had a taste for a variety of good and healthy foods. I vaguely remember getting dried apricots as a "treat" on trips to the grocery store and I was blessed with many a beautiful salad in my lunch can during primary and elementary school, thanks to my mother. I still remember the pill bottle full of french dressing.

Now don't get me wrong....I also have a deep love for ice cream and gummy candy and there was a time in my life that it consumed me far more than my love for fruits and vegetables. But I got back on track and have read just about everything I can get my hands on when it comes to food. I have sized up (not tried, but evaluated) just about every big diet that has come out in the past few years and in the end, for me, it all comes back to a few simple points....eat real food, in small portions, every few hours, and drink your water!

Eat real food. Yes, real food. Like I have said before, if it flew, swam, or ran you are good to go. But don't batter and fry it in mounds of butter and/or oil. Stick with baking, broiling and grilling. Use oils like olive oil and experiment with seasonings, spice it up with spices, not with chemicals. Really taste what you are eating! And....if it grew in the ground or on a tree, eat it up!

Read labels. If you are eating something out of a box or a bag, just take a look at what actually goes in what you are eating. Can you pronounce it? Is sugar of high fructose corn syrup one of the first 3-5 ingredients... are there more than 3-5 ingredients? Look, if something can last for weeks or even months on your counter or in your fridge, how good can that be for your body?

Eat real food, as close to natural as possible! If humans were involved in processing it, adding anything to it or turning it into something else, move on and try something else. That's pretty simple I think.

My next point is about portions and it is closely related to the following one so I will combine them. Eat small portions and eat every few hours. If you are eating every few hours do you think you will truly be hungry for that HUGE 10-inch plate full of food? Seriously, use some basic common sense with this one...yes, most people in the fitness industry advocate eating every 2-3 hours, BUT you also have to learn to pay attention to your body. You don't have ot stuff in meal #6 for the day if you genuinely are not hungry! Just because it is on your meal plan, (which I know you are planning your meals by now) doesn't mean that you have to force it down. And with that said, if you have to force it down because you are too full, then you probably ate too much at your last meal/snack.

If you are drinking 8-10 cups of water a day, loading your plate up with fruits and veggies and choosing good quality lean proteins then there won't be much room for anything else except a few other compex, starchy carbs (think brown rice, quinoa, oats, etc...) and even those will naturally become smaller portions because you just won't be able to stuff it all in (and feel good afterwards).

Remember: it takes 20 minutes for your stomach to tell your brain that it is full. ....Aim to eat your veggies first, then your protein, then your starches and drink that water! Take your time, eat slow, pay attention to what you are doing (hard to do if you are caught up in the news or in Grey's Anatomy - that's another post) and let your brain register what your body is telling it.

Basically eat REAL food, focus on plants and keep the portions small enough that you will want "another little something" in a couple of hours - and then be prepared for that a couple of hours later by having healthy, real food nearby.

Vegetables, fruit, nuts, light cheese, yogurt, eggs (hard boiled are portable and easy to eat), heck even carry around a few ounces of left over chicken around if you have to - don't get caught unprepared, the food industry is just waiting to catch you and boy are they ready!

Wednesday, October 20, 2010

Massage Therapy and Stress: Part I

Massage Therapy and Stress: Part I

“I am so stressed out!” How often have you heard or uttered these words? My guess is far too often to count! So often I am asked why I chose massage as my career and to be honest “stress” is the answer. So what is this mysterious “stress” that we talk about so often and why would this obscure word affect my choice of profession?

Stress is a word that we throw around almost daily but do we really understand what stress is? How it affects us? How we can recognize it in our lives and how we can manage it effectively? In part one of this three part article I will discuss some of these very things.

Most times when we use the word stress it carries a negative connotation but to start off I must explain that not all stress is bad! What we perceive as stress can also push us forward, to meet a deadline for example. But for the purposes of this article I will be talking about the negative stress; that which causes us unwanted pressure in our lives and then as a result of that pressure, has many physical, mental and emotional effects as well.

What is stress and where does it come from? For my purpose I found this definition fits best…..
“Stress is what you experience when you believe that you can not cope effectively with a situation.”

I love this definition because it has one basic element that most of us need to understand, and once we do understand it, it will have a profound impact on how we deal with everything in life. It is our “belief that we can not cope” …..If it is our belief, then that means that we have control, yet in most cases we feel just the opposite.

Our beliefs create our thoughts, and our thoughts create our feelings, and our feelings create our actions. If these thoughts, feelings and actions come from a belief that we can not cope it will cause us a create deal of stress! Our thoughts and feelings also cause a physical reaction that result in the release of chemicals in the body that affects all of our body’s systems. For example, the sympathetic nervous system reacts with the fight or flight response resulting in the circulation of hormones such as cortisol and adrenaline.

Why is stress such a buzz word? Are there more stressful things in our life than there used to be? Well in fact, yes there are. And the ironic part is that much of it is supposed to make our lives easier. Here is a short list of common stressors:
• Major Life Events: death, divorce/separation, job loss, marriage, bankruptcy, serious illness, moving, birth of children…this is a familiar list to many of us
• Workplace: cutbacks, increased workloads, pay freezes or cuts, unemployment, office politics, job insecurity.
• Finances: no surprise here, costs increase steadily yet our income often does not reflect the rising cost of living.
• Home/Family life: Most families now have both spouses/parents working this does not change the fact that the house still needs attending to as do any children, extended family members and pets in the home
• Community Involvement: Most people have some other commitments outside of work and the home, church groups, PTA, other community groups, sport teams, etc, all competing for our limited time
• Technology: Once upon a time, work stayed at work. There are times that we all long for the good ole days with no laptops, cell phones and blackberries.

The above list is far from being exhaustive; there are many more things that can cause us to feel out of control or anxious. But how these seemingly smaller, everyday things add up to create this feeling of stress is what is of great concern. Our reaction to each of these events of situations causes a physical reaction in the body, and over time these can add up. As a result we can often end up with some of these common complaints:


• Fatigue, lethargy
• Racing pulse, shallow breathing, heart palpitations
• Muscle tension and aches
• Tremors, shakiness
• Heartburn, indigestion, nervousness, constipation, diarrhea
• Dry mouth
• Excessive sweating, cold hands or feet
• Rashes, hives
• Nail biting
• Lowered libido
• Overeating or loss of appetite
• Sleep disturbances
• Anger, irritability, sadness, moodiness
• Worry, anxiety or panic
• Loss of sense of humor


This list is long as well and there is much more I could include, but I am sure you get the idea. Many of the above signs and symptoms could also be signs of more serious medical conditions and should always be evaluated by your healthcare professional. But you can also see that if you do happen to be diagnosed with a medical condition, that stress can also aggravate it. It becomes a vicious circle and can often make management of these health conditions more difficult if ones level of stress is not controlled.


In the second part of this blog I will look at Massage Therapy in particular and its affects on stress and anxiety as well as a variety of other conditions which can be affected by stress.

Massage Therapy and Stress: Part II

Massage Therapy and Stress: Part II

In today’s society the focus seems to be more on healing disease and illness rather than prevention, however there is a movement of change. More people than ever are starting to take responsibility for their own health and are turning to once considered “alternative” therapies for healing and preventative care. Massage Therapy is one of those key treatment options.

Massage therapy once had its place strictly in the spa environment, then as a profession we spent years educating people on the physical effects and benefits of massage on a number of very common health issues. People have been seeking massage for treatments of injuries sustained in motor vehicle and workplace accidents as well as arthritis, headaches, fibromyalgia, heel spurs, pregnancy, digestive problems, frozen shoulder, muscle spasms, strains and sprains and postural concerns among countless others.

In our attempts to emphasize the positive physical and therapeutic affects of massage we now often tend to over look the additional mental and emotional benefits, many of which also have a physical effect. You see, we can not separate our emotional and our physical and even our spiritual bodies. Our bodies are a complex creation in which one system and its many components, including its chemical changes, affect all other areas of our body and its components. We can not isolate our back from our feet or our head from our neck and shoulders or our ulcers from our level of perceived emotional stress. We are so deeply connected and all of our systems intertwined. This sense of connection is something that I so often see missing in our attempts to “heal” our infirmities.

In our hurried society, stress and anxiety has been linked with many various health conditions. Regardless of how well one believes that they can handle stress you can assured of one thing…..Stress will ALWAYS manifest itself physically, sooner or later, in one way or another.

Headaches, ulcers, high blood pressure, diabetes, heart disease, irritable bowel syndrome, insomnia, fertility difficulties and constipation are all common conditions that are often associated with increased stress levels, as either a major cause or an aggravating factor.

Massage is not only effective in reducing stress levels but also increasing circulation and decreasing inflammation which is very important on conditions such as arthritis, muscle spasm, tendonitis, strains and sprains and during pregnancy.

Reduction of fibrous adhesions and stretching of connective tissue is also important for frozen shoulder and plantar fasciitis.

Massage calms the nervous system, lowers blood pressure, slows respiration, strengthens the immune system, strengthens the muscular system, promotes sleep and stimulates the release of endorphins, which are chemicals that modify pain perception and help create a general feeling of wellness. Massage helps to relieve tight, tired and aching muscles, improve muscle tone and increase flexibility and range of motion which is key for management of Arthritis and maintaining and improving posture.

Massage can play a large role in the management of stress and anxiety and therefore can both directly and indirectly affect one’s physical health.

Tuesday, October 12, 2010

SAHM's, Sweats and Ponytail Syndrome


I have been truly blessed to have the opportunity to be a stay at home mom (SAHM) and be with my children for the first few years of their lives. It is an honour to get to spend my days with them and teach and shape and mould them into the little people that they are becoming, but....there is a darker side to staying at home that many moms don't like to talk about.

Come on, you all know what I am talking about....the sweats, the ponytails and ball caps, the spit up on your shoulder that never seems to come out in the laundry....no wait, it did come out, that's a new stain!

It all boils down to putting all others above ourselves - but isn't that what we are supposed to do?!?! NO!!!

My favorite saying to tell my massage clients, especially those who are caregivers has always been "You can't give from a dry well!" Explaining to them that they were no good to anyone else if they didn't take time for themselves. A statement which I firmly believe with all of my heart! So slap the biggest hypocrit sign on my forehead that you can find!!!

I LET IT HAPPEN! I LET MYSELF GO!

It wasn't a conscious decision, it just happens. Baby is napping so you catch up on housework and laundry or you nap yourself. Baby is just gonna spit up on you anyway so why bother to put on good clothes? Why do your hair? It's only gonna get pulled on and tangled with baby food! Who's looking at you? You don't go anywhere anyway right?

A trip to get groceries is a HUGE event! I get to put on my jeans?!?!? No wait, they don't fit! ARGH! Back to the ever stretching waistband of my trusty friend the sweatpants!

The problem is.....baby grows up to be a toddler. Yes they are still as messy but it isn't directed at you nearly as much as it used to be. Then comes preschool and kindergarten and they are pretty independent little folks! Unfortunately no one copied your pontail and sweats on that email. You fell into a rut right? I sure did. I just didn't bother anymore. It wasn't worth the effort.

But as many SAHM's will tell you, this feeling grows and grows until you reach the point that it starts to affect your self esteem. You start to feel sloppy and lazy (even though you don't stop all day long). You don't care of you eat that bowl of ice cream, you won't feel it, the pants grow with you. And workout? Who has the energy got that? I know. It happened to me. I got down, I got depressed. (I now recognize that I even suffer from seasonal "blues". Being aware of such a thing makes me even more conscious to make the effort, to not lose myself in those baggy clothes anymore.)

How did I move past this? It wasn't rocket science just simply a promise. I promised to make some effort everyday, no matter how small to take care of myself; because only then can I take care of my family. For me, this means getting a workout in most days of the week; planning my meals (making them healthy and balanced); doing my hair and getting dressed in REAL clothes (even if it is just a pair of jeans and t-shirt) *Find a pair of jeans that fit you well, regardless of the size and ROCK THEM!!!.

You know, in reality, it doesn't take that much more energy and the payoff of feeling like a normal person again is so worth the effort! I might not leave my house to go to work a 9-5 job but I still take the time to put some energy into myself so I can take that energy and use it to give back to my family and friends.

The old saying "if momma ain't happy, no one's happy" is oh so true! So why not make yourself a promise to make momma happy! I promise you it'll be worth your time!

Health and Happiness,

Lesley